Why I’ve Become My Mother’s Mother

I’m not a mother. But my job description as caregiver would read much the same. Essentially, I’ve had to become my mother’s mother. It’s the hardest job I’ve ever had, and not one I thought I’d be taking on so soon. I always knew I’d take care of my mother when she got old (seriously,…

Settling In

Our first night we slept on an air mattress in the middle of the living room. It was the only furniture unpacked — and after a long and disastrous move, we plugged in our phones and collapsed. We used the barstools that came with the house as tables, step stools and chairs. It felt like…

Reappearing

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged… months since I’ve written much of anything personal at all. We disappeared shortly after our wonderful trip to Los Angeles — where we went to an exciting taping of the Ellen Degeneres Show for Mother’s Day! The Nosy Parker family has seen some big life changes in the…

Joy in (Unexpectedly Early) Caregiving

When I was 9 years old, I wrote my first book about caring for my mother, titled “Do you know what I’ll do?” I found it in the garage recently — an endearing and sweet look at a devoted daughter, each page outlines (and illustrates) the many ways I’d dote on her as she aged. We’ve always…

“Now Then” – A Winning NaNoWriMo Excerpt

During November, I “won” NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) by writing 50,000 words of my novel “Now Then.” A struggling 20-something becomes an instant caregiver when her fiercely independent mother is diagnosed with brain cancer. Finding humor and hope in the darkness, their struggles and adventures are interwoven with glimpses of their unique relationship before…

Fractured Lives

It’s been a little more than 2 years now since my Mama was diagnosed with brain cancer and I became an instant caregiver. The ripple effect on our previously independent lives is dramatic and deeply felt every day. Last year, when we learned that her extremely rare brain cancer is considered terminal, we decided to…

The Waiting Continues

Mama’s latest MRI this week was inconclusive — virtually no change (just about 1 mm growth). So now the long wait continues. The next MRI is in 6 weeks. At that time, we hope the damaged area will shrink. Mama has decided to add a short dose of steroids to help shrink it — in…